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Teach Us How to Pray

April 29th, 2012 · encouragement, life lessons, fullness, Faith

One day Jesus was praying in a certain place. When he finished, one of his disciples said to him, “Lord, teach us to pray, just as John taught his disciples.” Luke 11:1

Many women have shared with me that when they want to pray they’re just not sure what to say.  When Jesus was on earth, He helped us by knowing how to pray.  I believe we can find tremendous treasures in The Lord’s Prayer.

The Lord’s Prayer

We recognize supremacy in “Our Father who art in heaven, hallowed be your name,”

We submit our will to God’s in “your kingdom come, your will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.”

We humbly request our daily needs to be met in “give us this day our daily bread, and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil.”

Christ’s final authority is exalted in “for thine is the kingdom, the power and the glory forever.”

Amen (Which in Hebrew means ‘So Be It.’)

God never expects our prayers to be perfect.  We’re humans who have no clue as to His power and might.  God understands our limitations.  But what He does desire in our prayers is acknowledgement of His supremacy, our submission, a humble heart and recognition of who He is and the authority He has.

Today, be encouraged as you pray and trust that God will give you guidance as you earnestly seek Him.

 

 

 

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How to Move Beyond Fear to the High Places with God

March 25th, 2012 · encouragement, life lessons, fullness, Faith, Thriving

 

How to Move Beyond Fear to the High Places with God

 Hannah Hurnard’s book Hinds Feet on High Places is one of my favorite books. The main character in the story is Much-Afraid, who belongs to the family of Fearlings. Fear has driven her life much as it did mine. I’ve read it at two pivotal points in my life—the death of my mother and the death of my father. The book is a beautiful allegory dramatizing Much-Afraid’s spiritual journey to the High Places, where she learns to overcome her tormenting fears with the help of the Good Shepherd. The story is perhaps most interesting because Much Afraid is lame, and to help her overcome her fears, the Shepherd challenges her to walk the High Places along the narrow edges of jagged cliffs and high mountainous terrain with the unwelcome companions of Sorrow and Suffering. As the Shepherd introduces her to her new companions, she is visibly shaken.

“I can’t go with them,” she gasped, “I can’t! I can’t O my Lord Shepherd, why do you do this to me? How can I travel in their company? It is more than I can bear. You tell me that the mountain way itself is so steep and difficult that I cannot climb it alone. Then why, oh why, must you make Sorrow and Suffering my companions? Couldn’t you have given Joy and Peace to go with me, to strengthen me and encourage me and help me on the difficult way? I never thought you would do this to me!” And she burst into tears.

A strange look passed over the Shepherd’s face as he listened to this outburst, then looking at the veiled figures as he spoke, he answered very gently, “Joy and Peace. Are those the companions you would choose for yourself? You remember your promise, to accept the helpers that I would give, because you believed that I would choose the very best possible guides for you. Will you still trust me Much-Afraid? Will you go with them, or do you wish to turn back to the Valley, and to all your Fearling relatives, to Craven Fear himself?”[1]

Risky Business

As I’ve read this story throughout the years, I’ve asked myself what in the world motivated Much-Afraid to continue the journey? I believe the answer is found in the willingness to risk. I have come to the conclusion that to face the difficult seasons in life, you must be willing to walk with the companions the Shepherd gives you, and you must desire for them to shape and mold your heart, even when it feels as if they are breaking it to pieces. If you’re not willing, you’ll choose to play it safe and stay stuck in the valley; there is no greater travesty.

Risking is scary business because our hearts are up for grabs. But if we, like Much-Afraid, will trust the Shepherd, even when it defies reason, he will turn sorrow and suffering into joy, and peace.

How do we step out and risk trusting God? The same way Much Afraid did—by getting to know the Shepherds heart. Here are a few ideas to begin:

  • Spend time alone with God
  • Identify your worst fear and ask yourself if it’s too big for God to handle
  • Uncover any false beliefs you have about God—replace them with the truth
  • Don’t humanize God. He isn’t like anyone else you know
  • Watch what you tell yourself about your circumstances. Negative attitudes foster fear and unbelief
  •  Practice the spiritual disciplines of silence, solitude, fasting and prayer
  • Meditate on verses that speak about God’s unfailing love and goodness
  • Do a study on the names of God

Much-Afraid made the journey to the High Places because she was willing to risk trusting the Shepherd with her life; even when she didn’t understand what he was doing. That took a knowing of the Shepherd’s heart through the power of intimate relationship. Once she was convinced his heart towards her was good—she was willing to risk.

How about you, what’s standing in the way of you trusting God today?  If it’s fear, surrender it to him just like Much Afraid did, and see if he doesn’t lead you to the High Places.


  Rita A. Schulte is a licensed professional Christian counselor in the northern Virginia area. She has written a book entitled Sifted As Wheat: finding hope and healing through the losses of life which is currently represented by Hartline Literary Agency. Rita also hosts a weekly podcast show called Heartline. You can find her at www.siftedaswheat.com.

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Life Lessons

March 11th, 2012 · encouragement, life lessons, fullness, Faith, Self Development, Thriving, Women

I receive Ericka D. Jackson’s newsletter.  She is a woman who loves God with all her heart and seeks to please Him daily.

In a recent newsletter she spoke of lessons that she experienced during a trying time.  I wanted to share those with you in hopes that you will be inspired like I was.

Check out Ericka’s website at www.erickajackson.com.

Here are a few of the lessons that she experienced as quoted by Ericka:

  1. No matter how much work you do, it is nothing compared
    to what God can do for you in an instant.
  2. As incredible as the internet is as a tool to reach His
    Kingdom-minded, true lovers and believers, God can lead
    the right people to you at the right time…with no internet,
    texting, emailing or computer.
  3. You must truly rest in Him. Not to think you are resting,
    but to truly know that you know that if you believe and
    do not doubt in your heart, that it will be done for you.
  4. There is plenty of time to get the things done the Lord is
    calling you to do. There is never enough time to get to the
    things you do outside of your calling and gifting.
  5. His vision is coming to pass and you don’t have to worry
    or even anticipate tomorrow. The power is in being present
    right here and now.
  6. Remain focused on Him and His purpose and nothing will
    frustrate you.
  7. You cannot do a single thing without Him. You are limitless
    even to the things of the world with Him.
  8. Trusting in the Lord enough to stop working and rest should
    not be a faith-move. It is a necessity to Him having the space
    to manifest His vision through you.

No matter what appears to be crashing in your life right now, know that all
things (even the crazy-looking things that feel awful and stretch you in HUGE
ways) work together for good to them that love God and are called according
to His purpose (Romans 8:28). As the Creator of everything, Your Heavenly
Father will use anything to move you into the good of His purpose.

 

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Got Gifts? What Do You Bring to the Marketplace?

March 11th, 2012 · encouragement, life lessons, fullness, Self Development, Thriving, Women

Have you ever wondered what your gifts are? Do you know what talents you have that will be most effective in your personal life and career?

Derrick L. Miles from Milestone Motivation is an expert at helping companies find and utilize employees gifts to maximize their superhuman performance.  Check out his company at  http://milestonemotivation.com/

You can take your personal gift assessment at:

Gift of Administration

People with this gift:
- develop strategies or plans to reach identified goals

Gift of Compassion

People with this gift:
- address the needs of the lonely and forgotten

Gift of Craftsmanship

People with this gift:
- work with different kinds of tools and are skilled with their hands

Gift of Discernment

People with this gift:
- distinguish truth from error, right from wrong, pure motives from impure

Gift of Encouragement

People with this gift:
- come to the side of those who are discouraged to reassure them and give them hope

Gift of Faith

People with this gift:
- act in complete confidence of God’s ability to overcome obstacles

Gift of Giving

People with this gift:
- may have a special ability to make money so that they may use it to further God’s work.

Gift of Helps

People with this gift:
- serve behind the scenes whenever needed to support the gifts and ministries of others (without having to be asked)

Gift of Hospitality

People with this gift:
- provide an environment where people feel valued and cared for

Gift of Knowledge

People with this gift:
- organize information for teaching and practical use.

Gift of Leadership

People with this gift:
- motivate others to perform to the best of their abilities

Gift of Teaching

People with this gift:
- give attention to detail and accuracy

Gift of Wisdom

People with this gift:
- provide divinely given solutions in the midst of conflict and confusion

Gift of Writing

People with this gift:
- may be better at expressing their thoughts in written form than in verbal form

 

Discovering and utilizing your giftedness is imperative in living life fully.  Take the assessment and leave a comment here about your results.

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Making Decisions

February 29th, 2012 · encouragement, life lessons, fullness, Faith, Self Development

 

We all come times in our lives when we come to a fork in the road;  when it's clear a decision has to be made, but not yet clear on which direction to go.

My family has come to a fork in the road.  We are in the process of making a decision on which path is best for us.  It's not an easy process.  Many prayers, discussions and anxieties have accompanied this particular fork.  Which way do we go?

Through this experience I've found that when faced with a major decision that it's best to pause, pray, plan and proceed.

  • Pause - Making major decisions can cause a lot of stress and worry.  When I get caught up in a fretting period, I've found that it's best to simply pause and be still.  Halting my mind and body for a few minutes, breathing deep and exhaling slowly really helps in calming my disposition.  This is also a wonderful way to release stress, lower your blood pressure and heart rate.  Pausing is powerful!
  • Pray - We've found tremendous strength in seeking God during our decision making.  He knows all and we trust that by seeking God's wisdom we will ultimately move in the right direction.  He has opened and shut doors as He knows is best for us.  Having the assurance that God loves us and knows us intimately reassures our hearts that He will guide our steps.
  • Plan - When making decisions I've found that my mind is in overload quite often.  So to combat that, I've found that moving those worries, concerns, questions, possibilities, etc. from my mind to paper is a tremendous asset.  On sheets of blank paper I write each possible direction I might go.  Then underneath each possibility I write 'Pros' and 'Cons',  separating them into two columns.  After that I begin brainstorming any and all pros and cons for that particular direction.  Any thoughts are valid.  The key isn't to decipher what and what isn't legitimate.  Instead, the key is to get it out of our heads and slow down our racing minds.  These lists can be added to over the course of several days.  Eventually, those lists will clearly show the most beneficial way for you to proceed.
  • Proceed - Once we've paused, prayed and planned, the next step is to proceed with confidence.  This doesn't mean we have all the answers or that we won't experience trouble along the way.  But after doing our homework and looking at each route, we see this is clearly the way to proceed.

Making decisions can be a difficult process sometimes, but following these simple steps will aid you in your course of action.  With God's help my family will make the right decision and so will you.

Please be sure to share your comments and encourage others who are at a fork in the road of life.

 

 

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Happiness Is

February 2nd, 2012 · encouragement, life lessons, fullness, Self Development, Thriving

When I was a little girl, my mom would read to me each night before I went to bed.  One of the books I absolutely loved was a Charlie Brown book entitled “Happiness Is.”   I cherished it’s simplistic message and still do.

So many of us are searching for happiness.  Some look to relationships, career, finances, retirement, vacations and more.  But happiness is a state of mind, not  an end result.

Happiness Is:

  1. Thoughts – Yes, what we think about truly has an impact on our happiness tank.  Studies have shown that when people think ‘happy thoughts’, they naturally have a more positive disposition.  On the contrary, when our thoughts are negative, fearful or pessimistic we lack joy and energy.
  2. ARK – Acts of Random Kindness on a regular basis help us to focus on the betterment of others instead of merely ourselves.  These small acts of thoughtfulness have shown to produce positive endorphins in our brains which ultimately lead to more happiness.
  3. Smiling – My family is used to hearing this from me…”Frowning is outrageous, but smiling is contagious!”  How wonderfully true!  Smiling at another person IS contagious.  The positive effects can be amazing, not only to us but to those around us.  Try it!  You’ll be flabbergasted at the results!

Happiness is our thoughts, regular acts of random kindness and a genuine smile.  Habits like these are tremendously influential, cost us nothing, but reap an incredible harvest.

I’d love to hear your happiness results!  Be sure to share your comments with me.

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Texting Craze or Texting Crazy?

January 24th, 2012 · Greener Grass, Parenting

I appreciate the availability of texting.  When it's not possible or appropriate to have a speaking conversation on my cell phone, texting is a wonderful way to communicate.

We have the family phone plan.  With our growing boys this serves us well in staying in contact with one another.  Now I know that the younger generation definitely has the upper hand in texting know how.  Before I can get a simple message to my husband, my son has already text 4 of his friends and is having ongoing conversations with each of them.

Honestly though, I can't seem to grapple with the number of texts that he incurs.  Our phone bill came this week and our son had over 15,000 texts in a 30 day period.  That's right...15,000!!!  That is over 500 texts per day!!  My husband had 22 texts and I had 237  in the same month.

Even with all the technology of today, I cannot begin to fathom how an individual can text 500 times each day.  I have 2 computers, three phones, 4 social media sites, 3 email addresses, blogging, newsletters and articles that I'm responsible for.  Even with all of this I do not come close to communicating 500 times a day.

Much to my son's displeasure, my husband and I put the cab-bosh on those numbers.  He now has a limit of a mere 200 texts per day and old fashion phone calls are limitless.

Sooo...is it a texting craze or texting crazy?  How does your family balance texting best?  I'd love to hear your comments and ideas.  Leave them here OR you can always text me!

 

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God’s Time

January 15th, 2012 · Faith, Seeds

When the time was right,

the sea parted,

the walls fell down,

the lions went hungry,

the sun stood still,

the star appeared,

the waves were calmed,

the stone was rolled away,

the Lord ascended...

And when the time is right,

the King of Kings will return.

God is never early and He's never late-

He's always right on time and His plans for you are good.

Jeremiah 29:11

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The Foundation of a Dream

January 6th, 2012 · Pace

 

What are your aspirations for the new year?  What dreams, goals, desires do you want to accomplish?  It’s been said that no dream ever comes in the form of a well paying job.  You have to seize it through hard work, perseverance and fervent prayers in the face of impossible odds.

In the land of the free and home of the brave, many times we want what we want when we want it.  We don’t desire to wait or delay our gratification.

But for most of us accomplishing our dreams doesn’t come easily.  We have to work hard, day after day, year after year.  It requires tenacious energy, an incredible work ethic and tremendous patience.

God gives dreams, gifts and talents for a reason.  They are to be shared within our sphere of influence on a regular basis.  Years ago I found that when we try to live our lives without fulfilling our God given purpose, we will always struggle with being at peace.  All of us have a particular niche that’s made just for us.  What’s yours?  What thrills you just to think of it?  What activities do you take part in that you lose all sense of time?  What makes you smile?

This new year is an opportunity for us all to stop talking about what we’ve always wanted to do and start acting on it!  You can do it!

Take 42 seconds and watch this video link below on ‘How to Stay Positive.’  This video will make you smile and encourage you along the way.  Keep it handy so you can watch it again when needed.

How to Stay Positive

There’s nothing we can’t accomplish with God’s help!  Happy 2012!

 

 

 

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Making the New Year Great

January 3rd, 2012 · Uncategorized

2012

We all look forward to a new year with anticipation and excitement.  Because we desire to thrive, try some or all of these tips for making the new year great!  Please share your thoughts and comments too.  Here’s to a beautiful and blessed 2012!

  1. Love, Laugh, Play, Pray Everyday – A good dose of these each day will lead to a happier, healthier you.
  2. When in doubt, sleep on it – This year will have its share of decisions.  When you need to make a big decision put off the spontaneity of deciding quickly.  Instead sleep on it for a night or two.  You’ll be amazed at how perspective changes over a couple of days.
  3. Seize the day – Each day we have is a gift to be unwrapped with joy and anticipation.  Grab hold of today and live it to the fullest!
  4. Listen more, talk less – God gave us two ears but only one mouth.  We need to listen twice as much as we speak.
  5. The Power of 8 – Just 8 minutes reading the Bible and praying will not only positively impact our lives, but our days as well!
  6. Drink more water – Water hydrates our bodies, helps fight sickness and energizes us.
  7. Seek the best from yourself and others – Negativity is contagious!  Brighten each day by encouraging those in your sphere of influence.  You’ll be amazed at the impact this has!
  8. Go the extra mile at work and at home – Yes, it really does make a difference.  People quickly take notice of those who make that extra effort.
  9. Be a person of integrity – Reliability, honesty and trustworthiness make or break success in today’s market.
  10. Stop, plop and breathe – We’re running faster than ever and accomplishing more in less time.  Take a moment each day to simply stop what you’re doing, plop yourself into a comfortable position and breathe deep. Just a few minutes of ‘off duty’ time makes a world of difference in our perspective.
  11. Does someone need a hug?  I love this phrase from the movie, Elf!  The answer is a resounding YES!  We all benefit from positive, physical touch.  It lowers our blood pressure, relieves stress and produces positive endorphins.  So today…hug away!
  12. Laugh out loud – It does a body, soul and spirit good!

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